Discipline and your children

Discipline does not mean punishment. It's about knowing what acceptable behavior is. The natural temperament of your child, and your parenting style, will influence the methods that work best for you and your family. There is no quick fix.

Here are some tips for children of all ages:

Teach by example.

Give them reasons, but keep them brief.

Keep your sense of humor.

Try to control your stress - otherwise you'll overreact to triggers.

Be positive - don't look for negative behavior.

Criticize the behavior, not the child.

Praise good behavior you want to encourage, rather than highlighting the bad.

Turn a blind eye to minor acting up - annoying behavior and naughtiness.

Listen to your child's opinions and views, but set clear limits and boundaries.

Don't expect too much of them or yourself. We all lose our temper sometimes, and it is ok for
you to say sorry, too.

Treat all children fairly.

Discipline - Breaking the boundaries

Consult older children about what they think are reasonable sanctions or punishments; this encourages them to take responsibility for their behavior. They will test these boundaries and you will need to stay firm and strong about them. It may be necessary to withhold privileges until your child follows your rules.

As children grow older some of these boundaries may change, but making a compromise doesn't mean giving in. They will not always do what you want, but you need to keep up a dialogue and gradually let them take more responsibility for themselves.